A friend of mine recently went on the worst first date of her life. “He kept talking about how hard it is to be a man on the apps,” she sighed, recalling how this attractive, successful, interesting man had a chip on his shoulder about the dating landscape. According to him, women only wanted casual sex. And because there were so many more single attractive women than single attractive men, these women are just out there ruining men’s lives by sleeping around – when all men like him want to do is settle down.
“I think he was an incel,” she later suggested. I asked if there were any other red flags. “Well, he doesn’t speak to his mum or sister.” Both of us agreed this was the ultimate warning sign: if a partner has unhealthy family dynamics, specifically with just the female members of his family, run a mile.
