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The Guardian - US
The Guardian - US
Health
Adrienne Matei

Is it important for kids to learn about winning and losing?

Middle-school students play soccer.
‘Two cousins on separate soccer teams were so competitive that the one who lost would refuse the post-game high-five.’ Photograph: Kevin Dodge/Getty Images

My boyfriend’s parents coached youth sports teams in the 90s, so they have many anecdotes about how children handle winning and losing. Two cousins on separate soccer teams were so competitive that the one who lost would refuse the post-game high-five, instead retreating to some nearby bushes to cry. A little girl used to kick opponents with her ice skates during hockey; another refused to pass because her dad gave her cash for every goal she scored. One boy, when his team lost, lay flat out on the ice and simply wouldn’t get up.

There’s a general consensus that, in addition to boosting fitness, youth sports impart valuable life skills, like teamwork and discipline. Winning and losing are especially significant, because they prepare children for the setbacks and challenges they will face in adult life.

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