I imagine reading the current coverage of the allegations against Russell Brand is difficult for those who have had similar experiences. It certainly is for me. Reading Marina Hyde’s article (The brave victims of Russell Brand’s misogyny deserve full support. This time, let’s get it right, 19 September) made it clearer to me why something so unconnected with you can feel so personal.
It is the nature of sexual violence that it is both personal and un-personal at the same time. One of the most violating things that can happen to you has nothing to do with you; it’s the perpetrator’s choice, not yours, and it’s not your fault or anything to do with who you are or what you have done. You essentially become nameless, faceless, without your own personality and history.
