Can you know too much to have kids? “Maybe knowing too much about motherhood has ruined me,” journalist Andrea González-Ramírez mused on New York magazine’s The Cut website. She always assumed she would have children, González-Ramírez writes, but the “overload of brutally honest information” from the frontlines of millennial motherhood, and everything she knows about the horrifying rollback of reproductive rights, maternal mortality rates, the childcare crisis and the motherhood penalty, has left her deeply ambivalent.
Recent reports on birth trauma and grave failings in maternity care here in the UK add to the feeling it’s sensible to wonder if you’re ready to put your physical integrity, financial stability, mental health, or even your life on the line; at some level, we get the birthrate we deserve as a society. Plus, the news last week that pregnant women “shed grey matter” (“pruning” to prepare for caregiving life, the theory goes) wouldn’t win me over if I were on the fence.
