Choosing the perfect opportunity to ask your partner to marry you isn't always easy, and if you're looking for a sentimental moment, then you also have to think about how the people around you will react.
One man has run into problems with his planned proposal because he wants to use the romantic setting of his own brother's wedding to get down on one knee.
The man explained his brother is having a destination wedding in the Philippines, which is where the man's girlfriend was born and raised until she moved to the US as a teenager.
Because the country holds significance for his girlfriend, the man wants to propose while out there.
And even though he plans on popping the question a few days after the actual wedding, his soon-to-be sister-in-law is furious at the idea - as she believes the whole family trip to the Philippines should only be about their wedding.
In a post on Reddit, he said: "My brother and my future SIL will have a destination wedding in the Philippines. They wanted us to fly in two days prior to their wedding day, however, they're not paying for any of our flights, hotel, and food.
My girlfriend grew up in the Philippines and moved to the USA at 13, but hasn't visited her home country at all. She told me she wanted to visit the country to pay respects to her late grandparents and to see the beaches again. Well, since we're there, we planned to extend our stay for another week or two after my brother's wedding. And during that time, I plan to pop the question.
"I was dropping off some stuff to my brother and future SIL, and my brother joked about me getting married. I then mentioned to him that I plan to propose in the Philippines. I explained that we were extending our stay in the country and staying on a different island after the reception.
"My brother was thrilled and promised to not let the beans spill. However, my future SIL overheard the conversation and screamed at me to not do that. That the trip to the Philippines was all about their wedding, and I will be a major a**hole if I proposed. My brother chimed and said I won't be an a**hole, and it's not like I'm proposing at their wedding/reception. And might as well make use of the travel.
"FSIL said that it would be taking away the attention from their wedding."
Commenters on the post were quick to tell the man that he wouldn't be in the wrong if he proposed several days after the wedding - but insisted he definitely shouldn't try and propose on the day itself.
One person said: "As long as it's during the week with just the two of you [then you're fine]. I'm sure your girlfriend would love to get engaged in the country she came from."
While another added: "Does the bride know people return to their own lives once the wedding is over? Her special day doesn't turn into a special week just because it's overseas."
And someone else posted: "You are waiting until their wedding is over and they are gone. Don't tell anyone else about it, and you are good. She should be saying congratulations instead of telling someone else what to do when it's not her day. She gets one day, and that's it. She doesn't get the whole month, week, or year. So congratulations and best wishes!"
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