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The Guardian - AU
The Guardian - AU
Lifestyle
Eleanor Gordon-Smith

I want to distance myself from a friend due to her relationship. Am I wrong?

‘Part of why people return to abusers is that they feel there’s nothing better for them out there.’ Picture: The Interrupted Rendezvous by Rutilio di Lorenzo Manetti.
‘Part of why people return to abusers is that they feel there’s nothing better for them out there.’ Picture: The Interrupted Rendezvous by Rutilio di Lorenzo Manetti. Photograph: National Museum of Art, Architecture and Design

Am I wrong to want to distance myself from a new friend due to their relationship choices? I recently made a friend via our children’s daycare. Although we get on well, our relationship probably was accelerated by my wanting to support her through an on-and-off relationship with a man she has described as emotionally abusive.

Recently her ex-partner has begun to grovel for forgiveness, which is a usual pattern after their breakups. I’m worried that he is wearing her down and she is spending time with him again. This man is a major focus of our conversations and a large amount of energy.

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