I’m 26, in love with an amazing guy, and very excited about the thought of having a child. My problem is with sex, specifically penetration. I’ve had two attempts at penetrative sex in the past but it felt so uncomfortable it left me for years thinking I had vaginismus. Since then I’ve mostly avoided penetration. However, I’ve realised recently (after being intimate with my boyfriend) that the problem is not physical but psychological. In the past, I was shamed for wanting tampons by my mum, so I didn’t attempt to use one until I was older. I want to move past this problem, but I don’t know where to start and I am so scared.
Everything you are dealing with is treatable, so be hopeful! Your first task – and it is an extremely important one – is to find a physician with whom you feel safe enough to allow a physical exam. This is because it is possible there may be a physical issue that needs to be treated and resolved.
