With the rise of social media and the risks that come with it, many parents will want to avoid their little one's appearing on their profiles, and so will request that their family don't post too. With some celeb parents even opting to post things like emojis over their children's faces to keep them secret, it's not unusual that some are taking extra steps to keep their kids safe.
That's why one woman was left baffled when her grandma ignored her wishes by posting her daughter on her socials - despite the fact the woman only has five Facebook friends. She took to Reddit's 'Am I the a**hole' forum to explain why she was so mad.
She wrote: "So, before and after I had my daughter (4 months old) I made it explicitly clear to the family that I did not want her face anywhere online until she was old enough to consent, so I could respect her privacy.
"Yesterday, I was looking through Facebook and happened to look at People You May Know, and there my daughters face is, on an account labeled [sic] with my grandmother's name.
"The account only has my daughter's face on it, and in the people who are following the account are only five people, four of them know my dad, one of them is my dad.
"My dad is a creep, an a*****e, and an overall piece of s***. After what he did I never wanted him to see my daughter's face.
"This picture is one I do not have, taken by my grandmother's phone, in her house. I freaked out on her last night and she seems pretty convincing she didn't do it. I'm thinking of going no contact with her again if I find out she did. I only started talking to her because I missed her and wanted to celebrate Christmas with my family. And I missed my dog. Now I'm wondering if that was the wrong choice.
"I feel like an a*****e but I don't know who to trust, and I've already reported the holy hell out of the profile and Facebook is refusing to remove it so my next step is contacting the police.
"I'm beyond livid, when I saw it my whole body started shaking, and my immediate reaction was to block my grandmother and refuse all attempts at contact with her but for once in my life I decided to have a rational discussion about it and I'm still not sure what to think."
In the comments, people 100% backed the mum and said that her daughter had a right to privacy, so for her grandma to ignore that was disrespectful.
One wrote: "Your children have a right to privacy, and until they are old enough to advocate for themselves, you have to advocate for them.
"I'd request your grandmother take the picture down, in front of you. Explain to her if she would like to have pictures and be involved in your child's life, she needs to respect that she cannot post these pictures online. I would be livid if someone I am not even friends with had a picture of my child on their Facebook."
Someone else fumed: "I don't allow any pictures of my own minor kid on Facebook and recently someone posted a picture of them (with no malice, just in my opinion, thoughtlessness). Facebook, according to their own policy, HAVE to remove the picture.
"When I reported it initially Facebook claimed nothing was amiss but you have to escalate it. Go into your settings and help section and you can stipulate that as the child's parent you do not give your authorisation for your minor childs [sic] pictures to be used and you want it removed.
"You upload the name of the account and other identifying information about the offending account and the stolen picture so they can ensure they delete the correct one.
"Then go no contact with your grandmother and anyone else who stomps on your reasonable boundaries. You are looking for reasons to maintain contact vs your own peace of mind and safety of your baby."
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