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The Guardian - US
The Guardian - US
Health
Jodi-Ann Burey

I thought I was too broken for sex. Here’s how I found pleasure again

Composite illustration, of a partial X-ray of a spine on the right, and the curve of a woman's neck on the left, with an image of a flower on its stem rising out of it.
‘Lately I have found myself re-examining my sex life after surgery. How has medical trauma and disability changed my relationship to sex and pleasure?’ Composite: Vanessa Saba/The Guardian

Ten years ago, my right elbow started to hurt. The internet suggested I had tennis elbow, so I stopped playing tennis. Once the outer elbow pain moved inward, I changed my self-diagnosis to golfer’s elbow. I stopped lifting weights, competitive dragon-boating and bouldering.

For good measure, I consulted an occupational therapist about my nightly bullet-vibrator routine after reading that golfer’s elbow is common among construction workers who operate heavy-duty vibrating machinery. He listened closely and said he’d note VRI on my patient chart. I asked what VRI meant, eager to end my diagnostic journey. “Vibrator-related injury,” he responded. We busted out laughing.

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