Going to an adults-only hotel and not having to listen to children screaming and splashing around the pool is important to many people. Peace and tranquility are what some people desire, but not everyone can have that as they have kids of their own.
But if your sister booked a holiday to a family-friendly resort for her wedding but you weren't a fan of children, would you say no?
One person has questioned whether they're in the wrong for refusing to go to their sister's destination wedding unless she changes the family-friendly location.
The anonymous sibling laid their cards on the table and insisted they would attend the wedding if they could stay at a "different, adult-only, resort nearby", but the sister refused.
Taking to Reddit to explain, the relative wrote: "I can't handle children for long periods of time. I don't hate them or anything. I just get stressed out being around them.
"My sister booked her wedding at an all-inclusive in The Dominican Republic that was family friendly. A bunch of her guests will have kids and there will be other kids there.
"I said I would go but I would stay at a different, adult-only, resort nearby."
But this didn't go down well with their sister at all, causing an "issue", as "she gets a better deal on her wedding the more guests she has staying at the same resort as her."
They continued: "She said I had to stay at her resort. I said no thanks. She got my parents involved and they said I needed to suck it up for a week.
"Hard pass. I would have to spend the week in my room other than the ceremony. I can blow a few grand on Lego and have a better time than that. So I'm just not going.
"My sister and my parents are upset that I'm choosing my mental health over her wedding. They did not say that. It is just how I feel about the situation."
In the comments, people defended the Reddit poster, saying they should be able to put themselves first.
One wrote: "SAY EXACTLY THAT. Plus, she's allowed to have a destination wedding, guests are allowed to not go because of that. Guests are also allowed to not go because of the hotel, or the food, the drink, the dress, the guest list. Guests are allowed not to go, period. Your mental health is above all else."
Another said: "Just because she wants you to stay at the resort to save money doesn't mean you have to stay. If you want to go, protect your mental health and stay at the other hotel. You're paying for it. Guests with kids will make up for your loss."
"As others smarter than me have said: it is an invitation - not a summons", someone pointed out.
What would you do in this situation? Let us know in the comments.
