Choosing the perfect moniker for your baby can be really difficult, but it's something that you and your partner have to agree on, otherwise, it can cause bitterness and resentment in the future. There will likely be names you won't both agree on, but you can just regard those and continue in your search for the perfect name.
One woman took to Reddit's 'Am I the a**hole' forum to explain that their daughter was named by her partner, and "it fits" her well. But as a result of him choosing the name for their firstborn, if they have a son, she wants the responsibility of naming him - especially as she doesn't want any more children in the future. She explained that her husband is "really upset" as he wants to name their second child too.
She wrote: "Am I the a**hole because I told my partner that if we have a boy I'm not naming him after him?
"We already have a daughter together and I let him name her. He didn't want to compromise on a name that we would both agree on so I said I wanted to give her a middle name. He also said no to that. That if I want to give her a middle name he'd rather not have anything to do with naming her.
"I ended up feeling bad and letting him name her. He ended up naming her Shelby because he loves mustangs. I love her name now. It fits. He's now telling me that he deserves a Jr. If we have a boy he wants to name him Jose.
"I'm not saying that he doesn’t deserve a Jr. He's a great dad and a great person but I would love to name just ONE of my children. I don't plan on having more just so I can have the chance to name one.
"I know it's just a name and it shouldn't be such a big deal but to me it is. He's really upset and doesn't understand why it means so much for me to be able to name one of my children when he deserves it. Why I won't go back on this.
"Having a boy isn't even promised but it's definitely a conversation we've had a few times. Am I the a**hole for not wanting my partner to have a Jr because I want to name the baby?"
In the comments, people were fuming that the man wanted to name another child, saying she should have a say.
One wrote: "Not the a**hole. He can 'deserve' to name his daughter when he carries her to term for nine months. And what about you? Why don't you 'deserve' a name then? That's what you should ask him."
"Ideally, both parties should agree on the child's name. In this case, since he named your daughter, you should name your next child", another suggested.
Someone agreed: "A child has two parents, and both parents must help name the child. I'm really glad you like his daughter's name, but honestly, it's very controlling behavior on his part and a huge red flag."
A Redditor wrote: "How come you as someone who carries the baby for months and whose body is going through all these changes while doing so don't deserve to name the baby? He wouldn't budge to even give your eldest a middle name. You shouldn't budge on this."
What would you do in this situation? Let us know in the comments.
