I never wanted kids, but now my partner is pregnant

‘It is harder to feel for others and to emotionally connect with them when this was mostly missing from our own upbringing.’ Photograph: Jaren Jai Wicklund/Shutterstock

The dilemma I have been with my girlfriend for eight years. We have never lived together, which has worked well for us due to our shared love of us each having our own space. My girlfriend has recently become pregnant, and I am struggling with the decision of whether to continue our relationship living separately and supporting the child, or to end our relationship and provide financial support from a distance.

I have always been clear about my desire not to have children. However, she wants to keep the child.