I moved my date’s hand off my breast and he took it badly. Should I have said something instead?

‘Most people do not like it when they bump up against another person’s boundary.’ Composite: Getty Images/Guardian Design Team

On a first date recently, my usual non-verbal method of communicating what I didn’t want to do sexually was criticised and it has left me confused about how to convey consent.

This man touched my breast while we were kissing passionately. He did not ask me if that was OK beforehand. I gently moved his hand away to a place where I was comfortable being touched, and where he had previously been touching me.