I am a 63-year-old woman married to a man I love and find very attractive. I enjoy vaginal penetration, but struggle to engage in foreplay. I feel anxious and not especially aroused by having my breasts touched. Clitoral stimulation is almost unbearable and while penetration with fingers had been off the menu for a long time, with a lot of patience and talking I am now beginning to enjoy it once again.
I have had a lot of therapy to get over some very unpleasant sexual experiences and when I was younger my libido was powerful and less inhibited. It’s as if now, post-menopause, I have a less hormonally driven sex drive and old ghosts and inhibitions are revealed once more. How can I enjoy a wider range of sexual activity than penile penetration?
