Some expectant parents will agonise over their little bundle of joy's name for months on end, while others will have the perfect title lined up already.
When parents have had their baby's name chosen for several years, it can feel near impossible to think of a replacement moniker. Plus, getting territorial over your favourite name before using it can cause heated debate with friends and family looking to use the same one for their tot.
One mum-to-be has opened up about wanting to use the same baby name her sister loves, as she insists she wanted it first. Having loved the name Angelo for over a decade, the woman is refusing to go back on her choice.
Taking to popular forum site Reddit, she explained: "I'm 12 weeks pregnant and we just found out we're having a little boy. We're both indecisive people so we want to start thinking about names now. Naming a whole person is an awful lot of pressure."
The woman said: "We want to name our son Angelo and have for years. I've been with my fiancé 11 years, and maybe eight or nine years ago we picked the name."
She went on: "My sister met a guy a year ago and they're engaged. The first time I met him my sister was like, 'you know what's funny? Tell him your boy's name', and I said, 'Angelo'. And they went on a long rant about how that's their boy name (after his uncle) and that I'm not allowed to use it and I better pick a new name.
"My sister has never been a great person, but she's still my sister so I try harder than I should to have a good relationship. So we did try to think of other names over the years. But now that it's really real Angelo still feels right."
The woman has admitted that the decision to go ahead with the name will most likely aggravate her sibling to the extent that they may 'never talk' again.
She explained further: "Fiancé says he feels bad and that we'd be assholes for "stealing their name". I said there is no reason they can't also use the name. We have tons of repeat names among cousins in our families. It's never been an issue before. But if they want a unique name and choose not to use it that's their decision.
"Unlike them, we wouldn't act like we own a name. Fiancé says that sister's fiancé is very close to his uncle and the name holds special meaning to him. I argue that the name is special to us too, because we've been referring to our child as Angelo for almost a decade. It IS his name at this point."
She added: "Despite loving other names it just doesn't feel right to not use it. To be clear, fiancé does want to use the name and already calls the baby Angelo too. He is just scared to be an asshole."
Since sharing her conundrum, people assured the woman that she wasn't being unreasonable.
One person wrote: "Not the a**hole. Your sister is idiotic. Stop trying to have a relationship with someone who is intent on being horrible to you."
A second agreed: "Nobody owns a name. There were seven 'Johns' in my first grade class. The world and your family will survive two Angelos. Not the a**hole."
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