When you're married, the struggles and issues you faced early on in your relationship might seem so far gone and inconsequential. However, dredging up the past can always have its consequences and the pain can still feel just as real, no matter how much time has passed since then.
This is the lesson one couple has learned the hard way after a drunken confession has thrown their marriage into complete chaos, with the wife now seeking a divorce over what was said. The heartbroken woman wants to leave her husband after he admitted to finding her "repulsive" the first time they ever had sex.
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The couple has been married for two years and the drunk admission came after they'd been to a party. The wife revealed all in an anonymous post on Reddit, sharing her upset and seeking support during the difficult time.
She claims her husband told her that despite initially finding her "repulsive" during sex, he had "stuck it out" so he could get to know her, "instead of throwing [her] away".
Reflecting on their first hook-up five years earlier, he told her: "Now look at me! I’m the happiest man on earth."
The woman explained in her post that after the first time they slept together, he had gone on a trip and wasn't available for three weeks. She asked him if he'd been lying about being on holiday and he confessed he had intended to ditch her during that time.
But "something strong" made him get in touch again and "he was lucky he did because [she] turned out to be the love of his life".
The conversation left the woman in tears and she branded his admission "the most appalling thing I’ve ever heard".
Despite sharing an 18-month-old son and a dog, the woman wants to get a divorce and says her husband has now moved out.
She has also booked an appointment with a lawyer to begin divorce proceedings.
People flooded the comments of the post with support, sharing their own experiences and wishing her the best for her future.
One person said: "You caught the ick. A switch flipped inside your head and you can't see him the same way before. You know yourself best. You know what works for you. I'm sorry this is happening to you."
Another replied: "You’re not overreacting and clearly this is something that would stick with you if you stayed in the relationship."
Someone else wrote: "That would hurt my feelings and could lead me to end a relationship. It’s just such a mean thing to say and I never want to be with someone who makes it seem like they settled."
However, others thought she was giving up too soon and should give her husband a second chance.
A fourth posted: "This is probably an unpopular opinion, but I think OP [Original Poster] should give her husband a chance to elaborate on his specific choice of words before getting a divorce. Sometimes people slip up and use the wrong word."
A different user proclaimed: "I'd give him a chance. But I would want to know, 'so exactly what about me did you find repulsive?' And I wouldn't let up until I got an answer."
While a sixth added: "Have a talk, cry together, yell at him. Whatever you have to do but I hardly see this as a 'throw away the husband and everything you've ever worked for' scenario."
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