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The Guardian - UK
The Guardian - UK
Politics
Philippa Perry

I left my husband after he raped me. Should I tell our daughter what happened?

Mature couple walk along grassy hilltop, above seaLiguria, Mediterranean Sea
‘Your daughter sees only the fracture in the family and not your liberation from coldness and control’: Philippa Perry. Photograph: Ascent Media/Getty Images

The question I am in my late 50s. I left my husband to be with my new partner some years ago. Our daughter is now an adult. The problem is that my daughter resents me for leaving her father, and she is so rude to my partner.

I’ve kept from her the fact that her father raped me. It was once. I felt nobody would take this seriously. We’d been married a long time and one night I woke up to him having sex with me. He had my arms pinned above my head. I asked him to stop, I was crying and he carried on. The next day he said we’d both “got a bit carried away” and he wouldn’t listen to what my experience was.

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