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The Guardian - AU
The Guardian - AU
Lifestyle
Eleanor Gordon-Smith

I find my mother-in-law completely infuriating. She isn’t a bad person. What should I do?

‘However you decide to manage this relationship, try not to see it as simply your problem.’ Painting: Maid at the Window (1660) by Gerrit Dou.
‘However you decide to manage this relationship, try not to see it as simply your problem.’ Painting: Maid at the Window (1660) by Gerrit Dou. Photograph: GL Archive/Alamy

I find my mother-in-law completely infuriating. She really isn’t a bad person, nor has she done anything particularly terrible. In fact I think a lot of people would love to have her in their lives. She is thoughtful and sweet-natured.

However, she has a way of turning any situation into a negative story about her. This is particularly apparent with my son. Whenever we discuss him she will conclude with a story about how she was hard done by as a child. She always sees herself as the victim and this is extremely draining.

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