I find my mother-in-law completely infuriating. She really isn’t a bad person, nor has she done anything particularly terrible. In fact I think a lot of people would love to have her in their lives. She is thoughtful and sweet-natured.
However, she has a way of turning any situation into a negative story about her. This is particularly apparent with my son. Whenever we discuss him she will conclude with a story about how she was hard done by as a child. She always sees herself as the victim and this is extremely draining.