I find it hard to make friends – now my daughter does, too

Start small: ‘Your daughter’s struggles may reflect some of your own, but this doesn’t mean you’re failing her.’ Photograph: Andrew Medina/Getty Images

The question I grew up in a household that was supportive and well-meaning, but lacking in any affection or warmth. I know my parents love me in their own way and that they are funny and kind under the coldness.

I can demonstrate love and affection towards my own daughter, but I know I have inherited their traits in other ways. I have only a handful of people who I’m close to. I know my sense of humour and outlook can seem cold and sarcastic. I find small talk hard.