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The Guardian - AU
The Guardian - AU
Politics
Susan Chenery

‘I could never, ever not care for her’: how do carers know when to stop caring for those they love?

‘She’s just my special friend, the love of my life, my soul mate’: Don and Marjorie Cameron at home in Raymond Terrace.
‘She’s just my special friend, the love of my life, my soul mate’: Don and Marjorie Cameron at home in Raymond Terrace. Photograph: Dean Sewell/The Guardian

Don Cameron and his wife, Marjorie, energetically travelled the world together. “We’ve had wonderful times,” he says. They had season tickets to the symphony and opera – until illness intervened. “We’ve always done lots of theatre and music.” But the “lots and lots of memories” are fading now for Marjorie.

She has rheumatoid arthritis and was diagnosed with dementia two-and-a-half years ago. Now she will ask him up to five times a day “what have we got to do today?” It requires, he says, “a huge amount of patience”. Her mobility is failing, she is losing her balance, she has frightening falls, soon she will be in a wheelchair. But no matter what happens from here Don is adamant: “She is not going into care, she is going to be looked after at home by me.”

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