Love is a tricky thing. One moment you’re feeling goosebumps, the other you’re near blackout drunk admitting you will not love anyone more than your late husband… to you current husband.
This story popped up on Reddit recently because the current husband is now debating whether divorce is the only option. It’s not, but the question had to be asked considering the issue won’t be going away any time soon and feelings were hurt.
They say love and alcohol don’t mix well together, and someone eventually draws the short straw at the end of it
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So was the case with this guy after getting properly drenched in spirits with the Mrs and her admitting to never having gotten over her late ex
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And so the question was passed on to folks online, discussing if divorce was truly the only way
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The story is pretty short and straightforward: a couple of 10 years (and 3 kids) got super drunk and talked emotions for a bit until the Mrs admitted she will never love anyone more than she did her late husband from roughly 15 years ago.
Because she was blackout drunk, she doesn’t remember a thing. But that seemed to have sobered the guy up in a moment. And he can’t shake it off now. He’s considering divorce.
Folks online weren’t as quick to suggest that idea just yet, but netizens prompted for seeking out therapy first. While he has the right to feel upset, it’s not a cause to call quits after a decade together. Speaking is the way to go.
Needless to say, getting over a loss of a partner or spouse is difficult beyond belief
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The pain that loss entails is hardly compared to any other. Some might not find the energy, or even purpose, to go through it. But there are ways to go about it that might help.
The key things to focus on in that situation is: to allow yourself to grief as long as needed and in your way; speak about it, be open with expressing your emotions and find a support group; and remember that grief is energy-intensive, and it might drain you, so treat yourself, take a break, and then celebrate the person you loved in between.
There is always a chance, however, of that person coming to idealize the partner. Death has that effect on people—even more so when it’s unexpected and abrupt. While nobody can truly replace someone, going through the same grief process discussed above will help.
It becomes a game of coping with grief and finding comfort through sharing the pain and receiving support from friends and family, accepting what has happened and accepting what is now happening.
So, what are your thoughts on any of this? Share your takes and stories in the comment section below! And if you need more drama, there’s plenty of it around these parts.
Folks were sympathetic and elaborated that the guy had every right to feel upset—therapy, however, was in their minds the better option
Even some widowers pitched their two cents in, sharing stories
