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The Guardian - UK
The Guardian - UK
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Graham Snowdon

How do men really bond? For me, it’s been 25 years of kicking a ball – then sharing the stuff of life

A pair of muddy black football boots hang up by the laces against the white wall of a changing room.
‘It was the sort of moment that might cause you to ponder hanging up your boots … then again, why on earth would you?’ Photograph: tomandsteve/Getty Images/iStockphoto

It’s the middle of summer, which means a new football season. The glory game hardly sleeps these days: we’re in the midst of the Women’s World Cup and there is the constant spectre of the Saudi power grab on men’s elite football. As a fan, I’ll still embrace this hypothetical moment of renewal. But the big kick-off for me will come in early September with the return of the Thursday night football game that, for the last 25 years, I’ve played in almost every week.

I first got involved with it in 1998, when I was invited along by friends in the time-honoured way. Most of my Thursday evenings since then, amid changes of jobs and circumstance, have been defined by a routine of ferreting around the house for contact lenses, grabbing whatever bits of kit I can find and shoving a towel into a tatty old orange bag. At about 8.20pm, summoned by the beep of a horn outside the house, I’ll squeeze into the back of a car that was patently not designed for four portly middle-aged men.

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