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Sisonke Msimang

How can I help my white friend understand his dating preferences are racist?

Sisonke Msimang
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‘The bigger question you need to ask yourself is whether your values and his still align’, writes Sisonke Msimang. Composite: ediebloom/Guardian Design

Dear Ms Understanding,

How can I help my white friend understand that his “preference” to only date white women is racist? Can I persuade him to at least be a bit more open minded?

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