Some see weddings as a wonderful union between two loving parties. Others see it as a literal party, one of those ever-rarer opportunities as an adult to just let loose. These are not necessarily mutually exclusive goals and desires, but drama can arise when wedding guests don’t have their expectations met.
A woman decided to get worked up over her brother’s dry wedding, calling it tacky and “rude” only to end up being called out online. We reached out to the sister in the story via direct message and will update the article when she gets back to us.
Every wedding ends up looking a bit different
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But one woman decided that her brother’s decision to have a dry wedding was, somehow, offensive to her
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Despite some folks opinion, drinking isn’t a prerequisite for fun
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First and foremost, it basically should go without saying, the bride and groom are the only ones who get to make decisions about what their wedding will look like. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but let’s face reality, you can’t just go to another person’s wedding and start making demands. There are already enough “happy couples” who have a dream wedding so ridiculous that it has become completely disconnected from reality.
Thinking there absolutely has to be a bar or drinks available is about the same as disregarding their catering and instead yelling at them for not getting your favorite comfort food. For some reason, there is a subset of people online who think that alcohol is simply a must and the entire thing won’t make sense otherwise.
Setting aside the fact that this sounds like a case of developed alcoholism, the sister also seems to be confused about what will and won’t be provided at the wedding. She herself states that she and the other folks in the pro-alcohol crowd would only want a glass of wine or two, not to get completely wasted. Overlooking the bride and groom’s particular rules is a lot more tacky than any random decision they may have made.
So why the sparkling wine that would be provided isn’t enough is beyond comprehension. The fact that she went online to “vent” about this would indicate that she truly believes she is in the right. This suggests that she and the “others” she mentions really do believe that to enjoy a social event, one must be able to drink. This is equal parts sad, as it is concerning.
There are good reasons to have dry events
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Similarly, she is very quick to disregard the happy couple’s intentions, as she thinks drunk driving is something that happens to other people. To put this into perspective, around 37 people die from driving under the influence every single day in the United States. While it’s possible to argue that everyone can choose what risks they will subject themselves to, drunk drivers don’t just kill or injure themselves, they can cause all sorts of collateral damage.
Similarly, she seems to be fully overlooking the sparkling wine which isn’t exactly the same as a few cocktails, but is still noticeably alcoholic. The sister seems to have an extra large dose of entitlement without any imagination. If she wanted to drink a little more, she could have perhaps asked her brother for more sparkling wine. Similarly, there would no doubt be at least one person at the event who wouldn’t want their wine and could share with her.
So if you were inspired by the brother and, hopefully, not the sister, one alternative to a “wet” wedding would be to serve mocktails. If you have the budget for it, hiring a bartender to make the drinks could add that festive feeling, without the risks of alcohol. Entitled brides and grooms are bad enough, but entitled guests are even worse.
Some folks wanted more details
But most thought the sister was acting horribly entitled
A few thought she had a point
