If you are in a relationship, chances are you disagree with your partner on certain things. It could be about them leaving dirty clothes everywhere or their habit of always being late. While these disputes can be resolved amicably, sometimes a fight can escalate quickly.
For instance, a man took to Reddit to share how his girlfriend’s expensive expectations led him to break off their 4-year relationship. The author had booked a table at a fancy restaurant for his girlfriend’s birthday and even invited four of her friends. However, things took an ugly turn when the bill arrived. Continue reading to find out how the author’s nice gesture led to their breakup.
Unrealistic expectations can cause friction in any relationship
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A man shared how his girlfriend’s behavior changed after he split the bill for her birthday dinner with her friends
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The man even divulged more details about the entire incident
Relationships can be complicated
Deciding to end a relationship is always difficult, especially when you’ve been together for a long time. However, sometimes merely sticking together can lead to even more pain in the future, especially if there are unresolved issues.
Susan South, a professor of clinical psychology at Purdue University, told the Insider, “Two truly nice, lovely people could be in a relationship together, and it could just not work because they don’t mesh with what they need from each other.”
Therefore, sometimes you should let it go for your own sanity and well-being. Communication is the glue that holds any relationship together. Heart-to-heart conversations with your partner help build trust and strengthen your bond with them.
When both partners can honestly share their dreams and fears with each other, it deepens the emotional intimacy between them. However, if you start feeling uncomfortable about expressing your emotions every time you see them, then maybe things are not going well between you two.
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People break up because their needs, values, or expectations are not met
Besides getting along with one another, it is essential that couples help each other achieve their goals. Therefore, when partners actively support each other’s aspirations, it makes you aim higher and expand your horizons. Whether you’re running marathons or trying to switch careers, it’s helpful to have your boyfriend or girlfriend by your side.
Cheating in any relationship is a big no-no. If your partner starts seeing other people behind your back, then it’s time to throw them out of your life. Infidelity is one of the most common reasons people break up. Some other reasons include family interference, unresolved past issues, jealousy and insecurities.
Long-distance relationships can also be quite challenging. You might feel frustrated when you are not able to physically celebrate the big and small things in life with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Also, there are times when people start feeling separation anxiety. Further, if your partner lives in a faraway place from yours, you might find yourself lonely and depressed. About 60% of long-distance relationships end well, according to the New York Post.
Sometimes, difficulties in relationships arise over money matters. Such issues may be rooted in divergent views on how you and your partner spend or save money. Your irresponsible spending habits or debts could lead to fights. To begin with, finances should always be clearly sorted out.
Another reason couples part ways is having unrealistic expectations of each other. If one expects their partner to pay all the bills or believes they will magically know what you’re thinking or feeling, then things can go wrong quite easily.
In the case of this Redditor, the guy could have communicated about the party expenses from the start. But it was not very kind of the woman to expect he would foot the entire bill. Who do you think was at fault here? Have you ever been in such a predicament?
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Many people felt the girlfriend’s expectations were unrealistic and her behavior was rude
Others felt that since the author was the host, he should have covered the entire celebration
Some felt both the girlfriend and boyfriend are to blame for this mess
