There are many reasons why couples break up. Likewise, there are more or less as many reactions one could have to a breakup.
And when it turns out that the reason is “we just don’t have that much in common” and it gets re-interpreted into “oh you just dumb,” you can bet the reaction is going to be of appropriate intensity. Like gathering up all your friends and trashing your ex’ apartment. Yeah, that’ll show her who’s the smart one!
Breakups are often an extremely negative experience, but they can be tackled and led into a positive resolution
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Or so it seemed for this woman whose breakup seemed fine, but turned into a spontaneous trashing of her place
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The issue was passed on over to the Reddit community for debate and, honestly, she dodged a bullet there
A woman recently sought perspective from the internet over a breakup she had. She was engaged to a guy who, at first, seemed like a complete opposite to her, but that’s what she needed, given her strict academic background. Well, she soon understood that they didn’t have all that much in common otherwise. The boyfriend was also misinterpreting some of the things she said, which only added fuel to the fire that was the breakup and the subsequent destruction of her place.
Redditors didn’t hesitate in saying that she dodged a bullet with him. His response with violence to a breakup is unacceptable no matter how you look at it. In fact, folks were worried for her life and even suggested turning to the police for help—at the very least, to charge him for trashing her place.
While there is the belief that opposites attract, it’s common interests that actually create a long-lasting bond
The importance of shared interests can’t be overstated. Traditionally speaking, commitment was for the longest time tied to physical attraction and the ability to tolerate specific traits. This, however, doesn’t really consider things like significant lifestyle differences. And now that can lead to conflict.
Conflict comes from incompatible interests—no matter if it’s hobbies, topics of conversation and the like. And if neither of the partners are willing or are able to tolerate these differences, then they won’t be willing to invest themselves into the relationship either.
Tolerance is ultimately a subjective affair. If it isn’t the case of the Sisyphus boulder where nothing will change, then it might just be a situation in which the partner will run out of tolerance for this demand for change. This means that, in the long run, it’s wiser to avoid investing yourself into changing intolerable traits like lifestyle habits.
On the other hand, couples that share interests end up with smoother and stronger relationships. The bond is stronger and both find it easier to live with each other. There is a sense of unity and mutual understanding being fostered because of this.
So, OP seems to have done the right thing. And the internet agrees. But what are your thoughts? Share them in the comment section below!
Folks were all for the author of the post right off the bat, declaring she is absolutely in the clear
There were, however, some devil’s advocates sharing mixed opinions about the whole situation
