A groom has single-handedly ruined his own marriage after he slammed a maid-of-honour for 'upstaging' the bride after she didn't wear makeup to the couple's wedding day. He claims it was 'inappropriate' of her to show up bare faced because 'women shouldn't be going to a public event without makeup', the Mirror reports.
The maid-of-honour said she never wears makeup because she doesn't agree with the 'misogynistic beauty industry' and wasn't going to make an exception for their big day but she apologised to her friend regardless. The newlyweds' relationship has now fallen apart after the bride sided with her friend as she didn't see an issue with her appearance and has even moved in with her.
Some of the groom's friends and other guests have now accused the maid-of-honour of deliberately making a 'political statement' at a wedding which has caused a huge fall out between the new husband and wife. The woman said she feels 'terrible' for 'tainting' her best friend's big day and has taken to Reddit to seek advice from other users.
In a post she wrote: "I was picked to be the maid of honour at my best friend Jo's wedding which happened last week. I was so excited! We’ve been friends since we were kids and had already agreed to be each other’s maid of honour way back then, but that didn’t make it any less exciting.
"I helped Jo pick out my dress, my shoes - everything except for my makeup. I don’t agree with wearing makeup because I think the beauty industry is misogynistic and because it makes my face break out.
"I don’t shame anyone else for wearing it but I just don’t wear it myself. Jo knows this and told me that it was totally OK to go makeup free which I was super grateful for.
"I had thought that because Jo was OK with no makeup, it wouldn’t be a big deal." However, when the big day came, the 27-year-old noticed how most of the other bridesmaids were wearing 'heavy makeup' which caused her to stick out as the 'odd one out'.
She said: "I’m not self conscious even though I don’t wear it, and the other bridesmaids didn’t mind that I wasn’t wearing it, so I didn’t really mind. The wedding was very beautiful, and went perfectly until about halfway through the reception."
While the bride and bridesmaids saw no issue in her being makeup free, the groom deemed it unacceptable and accused her of trying to 'upstage' the bride. She explained: "The groom, Henry, pulled me to the side and told me how inappropriate it was for me to not be wearing makeup.
"He said that I was upstaging the bride at her wedding and that a woman shouldn’t be going to a public event without makeup anyway. I felt so terrible. I really hadn’t intended to take any attention away from Jo."
She waited until the wedding was over to apologise to Jo for not wearing any makeup on her big day and explained how she never meant for it to negatively impact the couple's day.
She added: "I said I was sorry for not wearing the makeup, and that I had heard her message loud and clear. She was super confused, and said that she really hadn’t had a problem with it.
"We talked on the phone and I told her what Henry had said to me. She was furious and said that she hadn’t put him up to that, and that she had been very clear that she was fine with my choices.
"She and Henry got into a huge fight and she’s been staying at my apartment for the past few days while she tries to figure out what to do. Henry and his friends have been texting me nonstop about how I ruined his wedding and his marriage, and even some of my and Jo’s friends are saying that I should have just worn the makeup and that a wedding wasn’t the right place to make a political statement.
"Jo is insisting that I wasn’t in the wrong at all and the bridesmaids plus Jo’s mum are on our side. I really hadn’t intended to make a political statement or anything at the wedding, and I would have worn the makeup if Jo had asked me to.
"I feel terrible for hurting Jo’s marriage and tainting her memory of her wedding even if she still doesn’t think I did anything wrong."
Other Reddit users flocked to the comments to defend the woman's decision to go makeup-free as they slammed the groom for his 'sexist' and 'entitled' attitude. One person wrote: "He ruined his own wedding by being a sexist that thought it was appropriate to reprimand a woman for not conforming to beauty standards. Jo didn’t care and that’s all that mattered."
Another remarked: "This groom's controlling and entitled attitude about make-up (a woman shouldn’t be going to a public event without makeup anyway) is a huge red flag."
A third replied: "The bride was fine with you not wearing makeup. That is the only person whose opinion matters. Everyone else can go pound sand."
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