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The Guardian - US
The Guardian - US
World
Steffi Cao

Golden retriever boyfriends and ick lists: gen Z’s dating rules are making them ‘constantly disappointed’

A winged Cupid sits on a cloud looking at a smartphone that reads “It’s a match.” A bow and arrow lie abandoned beside him.

Lea Veloso, 26, has an ever-growing ick list.

If he spits on the ground, can’t cook, lies about his height, identifies as apolitical or doesn’t travel enough. If he’s weird about other men wearing makeup (“like, K-pop idols”), says he wants a “slightly autistic woman”, has no skincare routine or only likes songs that got famous on TikTok. It’s an ick if he doesn’t call his parents, sniffs every five seconds, is an unsuccessful DJ or is embarrassed to do karaoke. Recently, she uncovered a new one: if he’s saving himself for marriage. It’s now at the top of the checklist on her Notes app that she references whenever she starts seeing someone new.

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