I have a former male client who has what I’ll call “a ghosting pattern.” He will text someone after a date that he thinks went well to ask her out again. (So far, so good!) She doesn’t answer. (Annoying.) He writes to her again. She doesn’t answer again. He writes again (maybe this time on Facebook and LinkedIn also) … you get it.
While most of us can plainly see she’s not interested, some people just can’t (or don’t want to) see it. No response means “maybe” to them. But no response actually means no.
For the woman in this scenario, I can’t encourage her strongly enough to use a tactful yet firm form of this: “I’m no longer interested, but I wish you all the best,” or “Thanks for a nice time, but unfortunately, I just didn’t feel the connection I’m looking for. Best of luck.” But she’s not my client; he is.
