I have a former (male) client who has what I’ll call “a ghosting pattern.” He will text someone after a date he thinks went well to ask her out again. She doesn’t answer. He writes to her again. She doesn’t answer again. He writes again (maybe this time on Facebook and LinkedIn also) … you get it. While most of us can see she’s obviously not interested, some people just can’t (or don’t want to see it). So for the woman in this scenario, I can’t encourage you strongly enough to use a tactful yet firm form of this: “I’m no longer interested, but I wish you all the best.”
I have tried to get this client to stop sending messages after a nonresponse (or two). My other advice is to send a “closure text,” which is more for the person at the receiving end of the ghosting (my client) than the ghoster:
“Hey [person’s name], I had really enjoyed our time together and was hoping to do it again, so I’m disappointed I didn’t hear back from you. Just wanted to close the loop. Wish you the best.”
