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The Guardian - UK
The Guardian - UK
Lifestyle
Moya Sarner

Do you lavish attention on others but rarely receive it? It’s time to get in touch with your own needs

Illustration depicting unconscious drives
To build a better life you have to make your unconscious conscious. Composite: Guardian Design; Henrik Sorensen/Getty Images

Recently I was walking to a session with my psychoanalyst when I realised I had just put my hand in my pocket to take out my house key.

Something I have learned from experience, as a patient in my analyst’s consulting room, and as a therapist to patients in my own consulting rooms, is that to build a better life you have to make your unconscious conscious.

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