Popstar Demi Lovato has opened up on her experience using "they/them" pronouns, describing is as "absolutely exhausting". In 2021, the Sorry Not Sorry singer came out as non-binary and announced she had changed her pronouns.
In 2022 she confirmed that she had decided to use both "she/her" and "they/them" pronouns as her preferences due to being "such a fluid person". At the time, she admitted using both types helped her "balance" her "masculine and feminine energy".
Speaking on the Spout podcast, she said: "When I was faced with the choice of walking into a bathroom and it said ‘women’ and ‘men,’ I didn’t feel like there was a bathroom for me because I didn’t feel necessarily like a woman. I didn’t feel like a man. I just felt like a human.
"Recently, I’ve been feeling more feminine, and so I’ve adopted ‘she/her’ again," she reaffirmed. "But I think what’s important is, like, nobody’s perfect. Everyone messes up pronouns at some point, and especially when people are learning. It’s just all about respect."
In a recent interview with GQ Hype Spain however, she revealed she's dropped her "they/them" pronouns after having to "constantly educate people" over her decision, as reported by the Mirror. Explaining the move, she said: "I constantly had to educate people and explain why I identified with those pronouns. It was absolutely exhausting, I just got tired.
"But for that very reason I know that it is important to continue spreading the word." Demi says she still feels torn regarding sex-assigned bathrooms and paperwork, adding how she wishes for there to be more gender-neutral spaces.
She continued: "I face this every day. For example, in public toilets. Having to access the women’s bathroom, even though I don’t completely identify with it.
"Or it also happens when filling out forms, such as government documents or any other where you have to specify your gender. You only have two options, male and female, and I feel like none of that makes sense to me. I think this has to change. Hopefully with time there will be more options."
