A woman turned to the internet for advice after fearing her husband could be having an affair. Taking to popular parenting forum, Mumsnet, the wife - known online as @Heartbroken26 - raised her concerns after she had been told her husband had been seen shopping with another woman.
She said: "Name changed for this!! I don't even know why I'm posting!! I don't know anything yet?! I'm hoping it's all innocent!! Today my husband told me he was going off to golf!
"No problem, it's a hobby he's taken up in the last six months and goes off most weekends! He always said it's a good de-stresser as we have two children under five, one of which is an baby.
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"So of course I've had no reason to suspect anything untoward!! My friend text me saying she's seen him with a woman shopping in the next town over!!! She doesn't think he saw her. I don't know what to do, say, do I ring him? Do I confront him when he's home? I'm hoping my friend is wrong."
The post quickly garnered the attention of hundreds of fellow users, with many commenting to offer advice and support. @Worriedandannoyed replied: "Oh this sounds really stressful. I'd definitely ring him, or can see if your friend can find him again and take a photo?"
@Christmaspyjamas added: "I'd call him now. You'll be able to tell where he is. Ask your friend what he was wearing. If it's clothes not in your house but which you know he owns....there you go. Could also go to golf club. Take kids for lunch in clubhouse text him tell you are all there to see him."
@Uppingham sympathised: "First, I am very sorry you’re having such a shocking morning and have so much to think about. However, for your own piece of mind you need evidence of what is going on before you do anything rash. I wouldn’t phone him. I would check online banking. I would check his phone once he is home.
"Check email if you can. I would also get a friend to follow him when he leaves again this evening. By the end of the day you should then have a pretty good idea of what is going on. I’m hoping it’s a misunderstanding."
In response to comments, the original poster later went on to add: "Ok, so my friend confirmed he was wearing clothes which I know he owns! That would be too much of a coincidence hey! I feel sick! I feel shaky! I can't believe this is happening!!"
Replying back to someone who asked: "Do you have each other on ‘find my iPhone’ (or similar)?", the woman revealed: "Yes we do! I've just checked and he must of turned it off as it says location not found! Omg! This is looking worse isn't it. I feel sick to my stomach."
To make matters worse, slightly later on the woman issued another update: "Ok! I think this pretty much cements it!! I've just checked the garage... his golf clubs are there!"
She added: "The main reason being I'm scared of the garage as I'm absolutely petrified of spiders! I know it sounds daft, so yes I don't think he would even think I would go in there."
However, people started to fear the woman's friend might be up to something as she the explained: "So the plot could thicken! My friend has asked to come around tomorrow as apparently she's 'found out more' I need to know. I'm not going to lie it's giving me anxiety! However I don't know if this is just fuelling the drama. I think I'm going to tell my husband about it."
TheChosenTwo admitted: "Your friend sounds a bit like a stirrer to be honest." But it wasn't long before the woman shared the revelation that her husband had indeed been cheating on her.
"I've kicked him out, it's all true, I'm absolutely devastated and a little in disbelief, well a lot in disbelief that this has happened." She said. "I messaged my friend after not being able to get in his phone, asking her to just tell me (it showed she was active despite ignoring my earlier call) she called me, she said she would have rather had a face to face conversation with me but if I really wanted to know there and then she would tell me.
"She admitted she had not been in Swindon, nor had she seen him, however she knew he was there as he was with her sister! At the moment she told me I felt a punch to the gut. (My husband dated her sister as teenagers) it's the Forest of Dean. Everyone knows everyone! She explained she had only recently discovered it herself.
"My husband and her sister had been meeting once a month for sex! I asked her why she hadn't just told me from the start (at this point I was holding on to any doubt) she said she was torn between me and her sister. I ended the call with my friend and woke my husband! He of course tried denying it!
"I insisted he hand over his phone and un lock it, low and behold! Any evidence was all I needed to see! Pictures and crude texts! He's tried telling me there are no feelings involved and it was just sex and that after our baby I haven't 'been up for it as much' I feel absolutely sick to my stomach!"
She continued: "So yes, he has been playing golf occasionally! To use as a cover! And the sneaky man had his his clothes in the boot space for the spare wheel! If it's sex surely you don't go shopping with them? There must be feelings involved. He begged me not to kick him out and that he was sorry and he'll stop it immediately.
"And for the extra kick in the teeth, she was also at the pub with him Saturday. So, where the hell do I go from here? My mum is bringing my baby back shortly and she's already taken my son to school. She's going to help me think through how I'm feeling, I'm numb, I'm lost, I'm angry, I'm torn, I'm heartbroken."
@Starwarslover said: "I’m so sorry OP. I’m glad you’ve found out though and there’s no more ‘wondering’. Now you can decide what you want to do. I’m sorry he’s treated you so badly, this is on him not you, don’t let him act like it’s your fault for not wanting sex."
@User40643 echoed: "Oh OP I'm so sorry. Sad I had an inkling something was going on. What an absolute pig." Merlo replied: "I am so sorry OP. What an awful situation for you to be in."
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