Contemplating death helps us to really value life

‘Perhaps the most loving response to that uncertainty is not to fear death, but to use its inevitability as an invitation.’ Photograph: Posed by model; Rohappy/Getty Images

What struck me most about this article (What end-of-life experts know about living well: love your wrinkles, celebrate birthdays and don’t obsess over work, 13 August) is the idea that preparing for the end of life can actually help us live more fully now.

As an end-of-life doula, I have seen how a terminal diagnosis can suddenly bring clarity. The things that once felt urgent often fall away, while relationships, memories, unfinished conversations and the question of what we leave behind become profoundly important. But I don’t believe that we should have to wait for a diagnosis to begin that work.