A Co Down woman has spoken of their family's heartache after her husband was diagnosed with a brain tumour.
David Todd, 42, had a seizure at home in 2017, and it was this that alerted to his wife Helen that something was wrong. He was taken to the Ulster Hospital where a CT scan and MRI scan revealed an ‘abnormality’ on his brain.
The Bangor man's son Josh, 14, now helps with his personal care including helping his dad wash. It has been a tough journey for the young family whose lives have changed forever.
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Speaking about the seizure, Helen said: “We were just about to go to bed when it happened. David took forty minutes to come around. When he did, he asked ‘what’s going on?’ because he was in an ambulance.
"Prior to this, his personality had changed significantly; he was usually very easy going but he became grumpy and got stressed out easily.
"[After the scans] I just thought ‘OK, so how do we get rid of it?’ Looking back, I was so naive because I had very little information about brain tumours.
“The first time I heard the word cancer was when a Macmillan nurse sat on David’s bed. She was mortified when she realised she had broken the most devastating news to us so casually in an open ward which afforded no privacy. It was awful."
Ten days later, David had another MRI scan which revealed the tumour had doubled in size, filling his left frontal lobe. On August 7, surgeons at the Royal Victoria Hospital in Belfast managed to remove 75% of the tumour.
"When David came out of surgery, he was no longer David," Helen added.
"They took the tumour, but they also took David. He was dead behind the eyes, like they had taken his soul. In December, David underwent radiotherapy and chemotherapy but the aggressive treatments left him feeling exhausted and he lost weight due to a poor appetite.
"Two months prior to his diagnosis, David had fulfilled his dream of setting up his own business, a tile and bathroom showroom, but the effects of the tumour and the treatments forced him to close it after just two months.
"David’s quality of life isn’t great. He has to use a wheelchair and he sleeps three hours every afternoon. He’s like an 18 stone toddler now and his life is just a series of hospital appointments.
“It’s really tough. Josh and I do all of David’s personal care, but what 14-year-old boy wants to have to wash their dad and change their compression stockings?”
Helen is taking on a Walk of Hope in support of her David next weekend. The 10km walk will go along the coastal path to Ballyholme for the charity Brain Tumour Research. She has been working with the charity to raise awareness of the devastating disease and she has raised over £1,000 from different fundraising activities. During lockdown, she completed a virtual marathon, and in 2021 she took part in the charity’s Walk of Hope.
Now, Helen will take part in the Walk of Hope on September 24 to raise money for Brain Tumour Research.
“It gives me a reason to keep going, and I want to share my experience to help others.
“If I didn’t have the hope and belief that that there will be better treatments and a cure for those coming behind us, then I would just be sitting miserable, doing nothing."
Matthew Price, community development manager at Brain Tumour Research said: “We’re really grateful to Helen for taking part in the Walk of Hope, as it’s only with the support of people like her that we’re able to progress our research into brain tumours and improve the outcome for patients like David who are forced to fight this awful disease.
“Brain tumours kill more children and adults under the age of 40 than any other cancer yet, historically, just 1% of the national spend on cancer research has been allocated to this devastating disease. It is only by working together that we will be able to improve treatment options for patients and, ultimately, find a cure.
“I would encourage anyone who is able to take on a Walk of Hope to do so. Not only are they great social events in the outdoors but they are a great way to fundraise and support the work we do.”
Brain Tumour Research funds sustainable research at dedicated centres in the UK. It also campaigns for the Government and the larger cancer charities to invest more in research into brain tumours in order to speed up new treatments for patients and, ultimately, to find a cure.
The charity is the driving force behind the call for a national annual spend of £35 million in order to improve survival rates and patient outcomes in line with other cancers such as breast cancer and leukaemia and is also campaigning for greater re-purposing of drugs.
To donate to Helen’s JustGiving page, click on this link, or to register to take part in a Walk of Hope, visit here.
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