Chanakya literally said "there is no friendship without self-interest, this is a bitter truth" and he wrote this in 300 BC, before situationships, before breadcrumbing, before "we're just talking," and somehow he still managed to describe your situationship more accurately than your therapist. The man who ignored you for three months didn't suddenly grow a heart. He grew an inconvenience. You stopped being easy to have around. That's it. He is not missing you. He is missing what you were doing for him without either of you fully naming it. Chanakya called it self-interest. We call it a roster check. Same thing, different century, same ick.
