A woman planning her wedding has admitted she wants her bridesmaid sister to shave her armpit hair because it's visible in her dress. But the bride-to-be isn't sure whether to ask her sister to shave her armpits or simply fork out to have the offending hair edited out of photos after the wedding.
She has been slammed by some people after seeking advice about how to broach the subject online. The anonymous bride said she didn't hesitate to ask her sister to be in the bridal party for the big day next year, but admitted she is uncomfortable about how the visible armpit hair will look.
The woman said her sister chose a bridesmaid dress that doesn't cover it up and the hair can be seen from the side. She added she didn't think it was not an "attractive" look and also worried about how others would feel about it, reported The Mirror.
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In a Reddit post, the woman explained: "I gave the bridesmaids a color (pink) and asked them to choose a dress that they liked and felt comfortable in. I am providing hair and makeup services for them at the wedding if they choose to use them.
"I have read lots of stories of bridezillas trying to control every little aspect of their day and make it perfect. I also understand that another person’s body hair is their choice.
"My sister has armpit hair that pushes out from under her arms when they are at her side. She has chosen a dress that will not cover this."
She went on to add: "I and the rest of my family and my fiancé’s family do not find body hair on women attractive (again, I realise this is not our choice to make her shave it). I have had family members tell me they do not like how it looks.
"But I am trying to express that we would really like her to shave just for this one day and these photos that I am spending thousands of dollars on. I think the “photoshop it out” solution isn’t going to work for us as it would cost me additional hundreds of dollars.
"I have not said a word contrary to her about the hair for a long time. I am trying to decide if and how I should present this to her. If she says she won’t, I still will have her in the wedding party - not going to throw her out over something small like this."
The woman also separately clarified that she had told her sister she doesn't like her arm pit hair "several years ago" but "she didn’t respond well". She added she was now "scared" to ask her sister to shave them for the wedding.
Opinions were divided on the subject, with some sympathetic towards the bride. One person suggested: "Buy her a jacket, wrap, or something to cover. She doesn't need to wear it all the time, just for photos."
Another wrote: "She's obviously not in the wrong and you seem like you're being thoughtful and giving this request the consideration it's due. I think it's fair if you politely raise the matter, so long as you are willing to back down quickly since it is such a personal request."
Someone else else shared: "Rather than asking her to shave, could you ask her to trim the hair so that it won't be visible in the photos? It seems like meeting in the middle might be the best course of action, here."
However, someone else commented: "I don't think I would make this request. If she's in your wedding party, you can accept her as-is without it putting a damper on your evening or photos. And if it really was somehow that much of a bother... I'd rather just pay for the editing."
Others were more critical of the woman's reasoning. One asked: "Why are you trying to make your sister attractive to you and your fiancé's family? Like, it's just body hair. It occurs naturally. It's not like she's trying to bring weapons or explosives or anything."
Another wrote: "It feels weird to me that OP has apparently discussed this with her fiancé's family. It's fine to have your own preferences, but OP's sister doesn't need to appear sexually attractive to her own family and OP's family at this wedding."
Some commenters accused her of enforcing "sexist" standards of appearance. Others insisted it was "wrong" to tell a woman what to do with their body.
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