A bride-to-be has been slammed for making her family and friends fork out a whopping £10,000 to attend her dream Caribbean wedding. The 26-year-old explained how her overseas wedding would cost her less than hiring out a venue in her hometown - especially if they prolonged the trip, turning it into a honeymoon.
But she expects each of her guests to pay for their own flights as well as a two-night stay at the luxury holiday resort if they want to watch her walk down the aisle. Taking to Reddit, she said: "My 32-year-old fiancé and I are getting married next summer. We decided to have a destination wedding at a resort in the Caribbean.
"The resort has a deal where if you pay for three nights, you get a free wedding. It sounds like I'm making it up but rooms here cost between £3,500 and £12,000 a night."
The woman went on to explain how they came to this decision because "weddings are expensive", and how her fiancé "hates being the centre of attention", so a smaller guest list would make the day less stressful.
She also claims to be somewhat estranged with her own family - saying she "doesn't care if they don't come".
"We decided that we would get married at this resort and we would pay for only ourselves, his mum, my sister, our maid of honour and best man," she added.
"Anyone else who wanted to come would have to pay. They would have to stay at least two nights plus flights.
"The overall cost to attend would be about £10,000 per couple. We paid for the people we cared to be there and that's it."
While she doesn't see eye-to-eye with her own family, the groom's 15 siblings are now expected to rack together about £10,000 to watch their brother get married.
She said: "When we told people where we were getting married people seemed excited and asked if they would be on the guest list.
"We invited all the obligatory friends and family. But on our invitation we told people the per person and per couple prices of the room, and let them know they would also have to cover their flights.
"Most people respectfully declined, but his sister, my grandparents and aunt, who is the most entitled person I know, are calling us a****holes because they cant afford to come and don't even have passports.
"They said it's rude to not cover the costs for guests to attend."
Wanting to make it slightly easier on her guests to come up with the money, the couple "specifically asked them not to send gifts".
"We invited our friends who we would have liked to come, but we understood most could not make it," she added.
"In our community, it is a major snub to not even invite a relative to your wedding. It is akin to spitting in their face and telling them to never speak to you again.
"We had hoped by sending invites we would avoid this offence - it mostly worked. It seems really rude to be like 'I didn't even invite you, because you're poor'."
While most users agreed that expecting her loved ones to pay out £10,000 to attend her wedding is "beyond rude", others didn't see the harm in it because she "clearly doesn't want them there" anyway.
One user said: "With that event price, just have a small wedding. Inviting people to a £10,000 event is kind of rude unless everyone is fantastically rich."
Another user argued: "I would be kind of annoyed if a friend or family member told me I wasn't even invited to their wedding because they knew I couldn't afford it.
"Let me decide what I can or can't afford. She clearly has no bad will towards anyone who can't come so just decline the invite."
A third user said: "This is my issue as well. If the bride only wanted certain VIPs at the wedding then only invite those people. Don't send out a bunch of invitations that include an invoice for the cost to attend.
My sister-in-law did this for both her bachelorette and her wedding. She has also done this for birthday parties and other events.
"We did attend one special birthday event for my mother-in-law but we have skipped everything else.
"She even suggested we charge people for mother-in-law's memorial service several years later.
"Nothing says 'I love you' like a bill with your invitation."
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