A woman who describes herself as a 'very private' person says she was dismayed to learn her mother-in-law had printed off a large pile of their wedding photos to send out in Christmas cards to more than 100 people. According to this newlywed woman, they've had 'a long history of issues' with her in-laws, but have managed to build up a decent enough relationship with them.
After initially finding the photos, the couple learned the mother-in-law intended to send them out in more than 100 Christmas cards, with many of the recipients being complete strangers to them. They 'firmly' asked her not to do this, and to check in with them first before putting a photo in a card. Unfortunately, she just went ahead with her original plan, leaving them 'livid'.
Turning to Mumsnet for advice, the new bride gave some context as to why privacy was so important to her, explaining that 'estrangement from abusive family members' had made them more cautious. They'd only invited their 'nearest and dearest' to their wedding and had guests not to share any photos on social media or with anyone else without first getting their consent.
The now outraged woman - who goes by the username @bardaye - wrote: "We really value our privacy and do not like that she's gone against our wishes for what feels like the billionth time! Considering not going to see them over Christmas out of principle."
One fellow Mumsnet user advised: "I would be cross if she had taken my photographer's photo and given it out to loads of people anyway, but if I had specifically said no I don’t want that thank you and she had done it I would be absolutely fuming and very upset.
"Huge breach of trust and disregard for your wishes. Is she a selfish person generally who doesn’t think about others?
"I would continue seeing her as I wouldn’t want my husband to not see his mum but I would never trust her again and I would be much more guarded about what I sent and shared with her. That photo wasn’t hers to share. Not her photo and not her face to print and share."
Another commented: "I don't doubt you and there are a zillion reasons why someone might be uncomfortable with their photo being circulated, and safeguarding is the biggest one.
"You didn't tell her she couldn't send any photos. You asked her to run them by you first. She ignored that request. She ignored your feelings. She was downright disrespectful."
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