When it comes to weddings, there's often an unspoken rule about not announcing your own life-changing news during the ceremony - including pregnancies and engagements.
And this rule is why one woman on Reddit has been left furious as she discovered that the boyfriend of one of her bridesmaids is actually planning to get down on one knee during her wedding, and has even written a speech that he wants to dedicate to his partner.
The bride-to-be said her friend's boyfriend has been discussing proposing for a long time and had asked her for advice, but had been keeping the details of his proposal a secret - although he had been constantly asking her if he could give a speech at her wedding, which she found suspicious.
But after another of her bridesmaids spilt the beans about the bloke's proposal plans, the bride was left furious and she immediately confronted him about it.
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In her post, she said: "My wedding is in two weeks and my best friend (let's call her Rita) is one of my bridesmaids.
"Rita and her boyfriend have been together for 3 years and lately, he's talking about how he wants to propose. He's also asked me for advice on what kind of rings Rita would like and generally, he has involved me a lot in his proposal process.
"He just got the ring now and he's very nervous and he was telling me he's anxious because the proposal will happen soon and he's very excited about it. I kept asking where the proposal would be and he said it was going to be a surprise.
"Then he started asking me if he could also have a speech at the wedding and I found this a very weird request because only my sister, my parents, and my in-laws will have speeches. I declined because I felt awkward about it and not comfortable. He was very upset and stopped texting or calling me to talk about the proposal after that.
"A few days ago, another one of my bridesmaids who's also friends with both Rita and I told me that Rita's boyfriend plans on proposing to Rita at the wedding, and that's why he was insisting on having a speech so he could do it during that."
In retaliation, the bride-to-be uninvited Rita's boyfriend from her wedding entirely but was then confronted by Rita herself, who asked why her boyfriend was no longer invited.
The woman decided to tell her best friend the truth about what her boyfriend was planning, but Rita is now furious with her for ruining the surprise of his proposal - even though it could have jeopardised their friendship if she had lied.
She added: "I immediately confronted him and told him I'm extremely angry and disappointed how he tried to trick me into this. He said he knew I'd say no and that's why he didn't tell me anything. This made me even angrier.
"I told him not to try anything or else I'll have no choice but to uninvite him. He didn't believe I'd uninvite him because he thought I'd be afraid to disappoint Rita, and he literally laughed in my face and said there's nothing I can do about it or else I'll hurt Rita's feelings.
"I then uninvited him and I told Rita he's not welcome anywhere anymore, but she was mad and kept asking me why. So I told her what he was planning to do. And just like that, I ruined the surprise that her boyfriend wanted to propose.
"Rita is mad at both me and her boyfriend and said that I could have just made up a lie on why I uninvited him and tell her the truth after he would have proposed to her. She said that now I ruined one of the best surprises she'll have in her life.
"I feel so bad right now and I don't know if I did the right thing but at the same time, I believe I was in a lose lose situation and I'd still get blamed even if I made up a lie and reveal the truth later."
Commenters agreed with the bride-to-be, with many of them saying it was rude of her friend's boyfriend to attempt to propose at her wedding.
One person said: "If you didn’t tell her, it could’ve ruined your relationship with her, so you were right to do so. He is the a**hole for treating you like s**t, and not respecting the fact that it’s your wedding."
While another added: "What he said to you about you not being able to stop him from proposing at your wedding is horrible. You did the right thing."
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