Ask Ugly: the state of the bush – how should I be styling my pubic hair?

‘For many of us, body hair is still knotted with shame.’ Illustration: Lola Beltran/The Guardian

Dear Ugly,

I am a thirtysomething, straight, cisgender woman who is recently divorced. I’ve started dating again and I already feel completely lost when it comes to how I should be “styling” my pubic hair. With that said, the last few weeks I have been receiving ads on Instagram to laser my bum hair… I have multiple questions. Is that safe? Should I buy a laser hair remover so I can do this in the privacy of my home? Is my anus supposed to look like a naked mole rat? Are women actually doing this?