Dear Anna,
I recently began dating a woman who is 12 years younger than myself. We have been doing everything except intercourse. We have very good sexual chemistry. Eighteen years ago I had a vasectomy. She knows that. And yet, she is concerned that she may become pregnant. Through the years I have had relationships with more age-appropriate women with no concern of conceiving. Never a thought until now. This subject has become rather frustrating for us both. She wants me to visit my urologist to make sure and she wants to have some sort of a birth control shot.
All this concern seems a bit too obsessive. What are the odds after 18 years of my vasectomy not working? Is this shot she wants to get to be sure worth the time and expense? I was in two long-term relationships prior to this one. No babies and we didn't give it a second thought. We enjoyed the freedom of not using condoms. I'd like that feeling back with this gal but she’s freaking me out.– Seems Easy, More Excuses Now
