Dear Anna,
I’ve been best friends with, let’s call her Jan, since we were freshmen in college. We’ve seen each other through many highs and lows. About two years ago she met, then quickly married this man, let’s call him Stan. I’ve never liked Stan but have made efforts to be civil and give him the benefit of the doubt for Jan.
Well, that all changed a few weeks ago when Stan hit on me at a party Jan was hosting. And not your garden variety pickup line either — he told me he was in love with me! Even though we’ve barely spoken and the feeling is obviously not mutual. I told my boyfriend about this, but haven’t yet broached the subject with Jan because this will devastate her. I’m afraid also that if I do tell her, she won’t believe me, and I’m sure Stan will lie about what happened to cover his own ass. What should I do here? — Between a Rock and a Hard Place
