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The Guardian - US
The Guardian - US
Lifestyle
Alaina Demopoulos

Age gaps, swag gaps and Claude gaps – are they really such a big deal in relationships?

Two people looking at each other but standing in different colored bubbles
‘This obsession with gaps seems to reflect a larger cultural queasiness around experiencing friction in relationships.’ Illustration: Yagi Studio/Getty Images

It started with the age gap. Can a 40-year-old man and a 20-year-old woman truly get along? That was once a question answered with a resounding “yes” by creepy English professors or moustached indie film-makers with a questionable grasp on the meaning of Lolita. Then came gen Z.

A cohort raised on the rigid moral boundaries of internet discourse – things are either good or bad, no in-between – decided that May-December relationships were either problematically one-sided or transactional in nature. Growing up in the fractured aftermath of #MeToo, where monstrous men were often much older than the women they victimized, probably contributed to that conclusion.

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