When I was pregnant after having a miscarriage, there were a lot of things I didn’t do. I abstained from sex for the first 12 weeks. I stopped going to my beloved yoga. I didn’t lift anything heavier than my handbag. I refused even one coffee.
Not one of these things that I so fastidiously avoided cause miscarriage. But subliminal messaging all around us tells us that miscarriage must be something we did, right? Even the word miscarriage implies an error: did the birth parent carry the baby incorrectly? Eat sushi? Have a bath that was too hot?
