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The Guardian - AU
The Guardian - AU
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Eleanor Gordon-Smith

After high school, a friend I was very close to drifted away. Should I seek closure from her?

Eleanor GordonSmith
Painting: A Street in Brittany by Stanhope Alexander Forbes. The painting shows young women dressed in blue skirts and white shirts knitting and making nets in the street. Many in the background are sitting while one woman in the foreground is standing.
‘There are lots of ways to get closure that don’t involve reaching out, and there are ways of reaching out that don’t end in closure,’ writes Eleanor Gordon-Smith. Painting: A Street in Brittany by Stanhope Alexander Forbes. Photograph: Artepics/Alamy

Should I try to seek closure with a person I used to love but drifted apart from, or is it best to leave them be?

There’s a person I used to be really close to who doesn’t talk to me any more. We didn’t have a fight. We just drifted, but I still think about them all the time.

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