This story is part of the My Unsung Hero series, from the Hidden Brain team, about people whose kindness left a lasting impression on someone else.
In 1985, physician Abraham Verghese was living and working in Johnson City, Tenn. He was a specialist in infectious diseases, and was well known for treating people living with AIDS. He became close to many of his patients, including a man named Frank.
"He was remarkably, I thought, brave about what he knew he was facing," Verghese recalled. "He understood the inevitability of what was coming. And rather than sinking into despair, he was an organizer, and he cared for his partner and was involved with civic events to the best that he could be."
Verghese remembers Frank reflecting on his life — the many places he had visited, the fascinating people he had met.
"And he said ... 'I feel sorry for the people who die, who, at whatever age, haven't had the chance to broaden their vision, follow their dreams the way I had.'"
For Verghese, it was a moment of clarity about his own dreams and aspirations.
"I just remember the words sort of piercing me," Verghese said. "This recognition that, you know, there's only one life."
After that, Verghese decided to take a chance on his ambition of becoming a novelist. He applied for and was accepted at the prestigious Iowa Writers' Workshop. And in 1992, he gave up his tenured position as a physician, cashed in his 401(k), and moved with his wife and young children to Iowa City.
Today, Verghese is a physician as well as the author of multiple books, including his latest, The Covenant Of Water.
"And I wouldn't have done it, but for Frank's encouragement," Verghese said.
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