There is a mental calculation women run every single day that many men remain completely unaware of. In fact, it operates like a background app running in our brains, constantly scanning for threats, exits, and safety. While a man might run an errand without a second thought, a woman often unconsciously assesses the risk level of that exact same task.
Living in a state of low-level hypervigilance exhausts you. We aren’t being paranoid; we are simply being practical based on lived experiences. Let’s shine a light on the mundane “danger zones” that require a strategy session just to navigate.
Pumping Gas at Night
For a guy, an empty tank at 9 PM is a minor annoyance. However, for a woman, it presents a tactical situation. We choose the pump under the brightest light to ensure visibility. Immediately after getting out, we lock the car doors. Then, we scan the perimeter while the nozzle runs. The act of standing still in the dark feels like painting a target on our backs.
Answering the Door
When the doorbell rings unexpectedly, we don’t just open it. Instead, we check the peephole first. Sometimes, we might even shout to a non-existent husband, “Honey, can you get that?” just so the person outside thinks a man is home. Consequently, opening the barrier to our sanctuary feels inherently risky.
Walking to the Car
We lace keys through our fingers like makeshift brass knuckles. Additionally, we grip the phone in our hand, ready to dial 911 instantly. We walk with purpose, checking under the car and in the back seat before getting in. That thirty-second walk from the store to the driver’s seat creates high tension.
Taking an Uber Alone
First, we check the license plate. Then, we verify the driver’s face. We also share our trip status with a friend. Frequently, we pretend to talk on the phone during the ride so the driver knows someone expects us. Although companies design this service for convenience, it often feels like a gamble.
Jogging with Headphones
On the other hand, men can blast music and zone out. Women, however, often wear only one earbud or keep the volume low enough to hear footsteps behind them. Furthermore, we vary our routes so no one can track us. The need for situational awareness always tempers the freedom of a run.
Parking Garages
To be honest, these concrete boxes are echo chambers of anxiety. The corners are blind, the lighting is often poor, and the isolation is palpable. Therefore, we park near the elevator or the exit, avoiding the dark corners at all costs.
Rejecting Someone
Simply saying “no” to a stranger asking for a number is a danger zone. Sadly, we have to calculate the safest way to reject them. Do we lie and say we have a boyfriend? Or do we give a fake number? We manage their ego to ensure our safety because we don’t know if violence will follow a simple “no.”
The Mental Load of Safety
Ultimately, this constant scanning takes a toll. It creates a cognitive load that we carry everywhere. We deserve a world where pumping gas is just pumping gas, not a scene from a thriller movie.
What is one safety habit you do automatically that you wish you didn’t have to? Share it below.
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