The term "incel" is short for "involuntary celibate." In its most basic form, it describes someone, usually a man, who is tired of their lack of sexual experiences and blames the subjects of their desires, most often women, for their frustration.
Reddit user BlueFruitJam wanted to know how to spot these people in the wild, so they asked other platform users to share the telltale signs that would suggest a person belongs to this infamous group.
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He's an incel if...
He thinks insulting or patronising you is a valid way to flirt, i.e. "negging" to assert their dominance.
He admires Andrew Tate and other incel-ebrities like that.
He tries to tell you that the real problem in the world is feminism, and women need to "get over it because gender inequality doesn't exist - in fact, men actually have it WORSE now because they can be falsely accused of r**e at any second."
Also if he tries to mansplain what women are "reaaally like" to you, a woman.
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It’s what they say. Common phrases include: “My biggest fear is that tonight we have sex and tomorrow you accuse me of r**e” “There is no such thing as equality” “Women only want xyz and that’s why no one will f**k me” “I don’t date because I’m not a free meal” “Sorry not sorry. I’m a guy and I’m gonna talk about have sex with you.” In my experience.
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If they’re obsessed with Jordan Peterson and Joe Rogan, that’s a dealbreaker ladies.
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This guy referred to our society as a gynocracy. That counts, right?
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Telling you about women rather than asking you about yourself as a woman.
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“I’m a nice guy but girls only want toxic f**k boys” mentality.
Using “female” to talk about women The way they treat their mom, act like she’s their personal servant Always mad about female lead movies (captain marvel and such) for no reason (their actually is one: women) Honestly some media/video game are a red flag, American psycho and such. And like yes, I’m aware, not every guy who plays league is a nasty incel, I’m a non binary angry “”blue haired”” feminist, I play league, my partner is feminist too, been playing a ton for 10 years. Honestly generally bring up how you’re feminist, or feminism generally and see how they react “feminist nowdays are extremist, their is nothing left to fight about, we already have equality, they just don’t want men to pull etc…” Andrew Tate, for obvious reasons, they’re more discreet about it now tho, so his mentality and lingo are generally a red flag Set a boundary, it doesn’t matter which one, if they do anything but agree, if they start arguing ?? (and depending on the boundary ??) When they make generalization about women, what they like and don’t like, what they want and don’t want. Their are a lot of other signs, generally keeping up with what’s going on in the incel world can be helpful, it’s a whole other time line, they regularly find a new thing to be mad about, a new famous women to harrass, a new « podcaster » they surrender their soul to etc… like a few weeks ago, saying « have you seen she hulk, that last episode was rly nice! » would’ve been a good question, because incel respond with disproportionate hate to those, screaming, crying, punching air, normal people that didn’t like stuff say « I didn’t rly like it, the cgi was off bla bla bla movie stuff… » Generally disproportionate responses to stuff that once in forever, where about women, and not men.
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